Dealing with negative people.


Negative people… They’re like human black holes which suddenly come out of nowhere and just suck the life out of you.You try to stay positive and remain strong but their negativity ends up just completely draining you, you feel exhausted, and you may also start to feel depressed too.

So what can you do? One of the first things to do is to be aware of who the negative people are in your life. This may not be as easy as you first think.Some very nice people are as really energy vampires, here are some of the signs to look for.

You experience a sense of being demeaned, constricted or attacked, you intuitively feel unsafe, tense or on guard, you sense prickly, off-putting vibes. You can’t wait to get away from them, your energy starts to fizzle. You may feel beleaguered or ill.”

Do you recognise some of the following? the sob sister, the blamer, the drama queen, the constant talker or joke teller, and the fixer-upper (requires endless help).Also, pay attention to what the person talks about. Is it always about how bad things are, do they just complain and never actually do anything about what’s upsetting them.

Once you have a good idea on how to recognize them then you can actually work on protecting yourself from them. Try to understand why this person is so negative, is it because they hate their job, feel frustrated, and feel trapped in their life or do they lack in self esteem so the only way they can feel powerful is by hurting others.

If you can understand where it’s coming from, it’s much easier to deal with. Some people seem to think that the only way they can get what they want is to be manipulative.

They believe this and think that if they don’t whine and complain that they won’t be heard and that this is the only way to get what they want. Remember that the negative behaviour is a reflection of them. It tells you what kind of person they are and what issues they may be dealing with. It’s not a reflection of who you are.

Just smile and remain completely detached, whenever the negative tirade starts just smile and don’t say anything. Remain completely detached from it and don’t get involved in it. Leave the room if you can. The negative person is simply seeking to get a reaction from you. That’s what they feed on. Don’t let them catch you in their web of negativity because as soon as you do, that’s when they start draining your energy.

It’s the emotions that these negative people stir up in you that you need to learn to distance yourself from. Try just observing the whole scene. Say to yourself, “what a shame this person is so unhappy. Maybe some of my positive energy will rub off on them. If not, there unhappiness has nothing to do with me.”

This isn’t always an easy thing to do but definitely a powerful technique. In order to get the full benefit from it, you need to make sure that you’re aware of what’s going on around you. It’s easy to slip into auto-pilot and not realize until later how drained you feel. You need to detach yourself from the event while it’s happening and just observe it.

This works well for family members who you don’t really have a choice as to whether they’re in your life or not. Try saying, “Now tell me something positive.”Right after they’ve finished telling you some tragic story, some people have no idea how negative they’ve become.

That’s what they’re surrounded by day in and day out so it’s just become a way of life for them. By being given the reminder, they may actually realize that being negative isn’t the kind of person they want to be and may start to work on becoming more positive. Or, they may decide it’s not worth telling you their sob stories because you’ll ask them to think of something positive.

Imagine a bright white light surrounding you, it’s amazing how much of a difference it can make. You’ll feel that their negativity can’t touch you because you now have a force field protecting you.

I find that the universe uses negative people as the way to get me to move on whenever I’m in a situation that isn’t challenging me anymore. It’s like a prod that I should be focusing more on following my dreams rather than just getting caught up in a nice, comfortable routine that isn’t getting me anywhere. If I didn’t have these people, then I would probably just stay. So, sometimes I’m really grateful to these people because they’re giving me the “kick” that I need.

Negative people want to get a reaction out of you, and the only way they can is if they hit on one your “buttons” or something that causes intense feelings for you.

For example they may bring out past feelings of guilt or anger or make you feel like you’re being rejected or that you’re not good enough.

So, if there’s one particular person who drains you the most, ask yourself why is it affecting you so much, sometimes, you can learn a lot about yourself by analysing what feelings it’s bringing up within you. Once you figure it out and deal with it then you’ll find that the energy draining person simply has no power over you anymore.

# positive energy # negative people # take back your power # angels # self love # magicandglitter

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